Diva Talks Culture: Iyanla Hosts a Frank Conversation About Colorism
I am a dark skinned woman and have no problem with proclaiming that. I can say to the best of my knowledge I have never been made to feel as if I were inferior, ugly, dirty, or less intelligent because of my complexion. I have no skin lightener or bleach bathwater stories. Another discussion for another day is how there are some dark skinned black folks who share the same stories, but it is usually assumed otherwise because we've been told as a society dark isn't beautiful so many automatically think you have an "I used to hate myself now I love myself" story. My parents, a light skinned mother and dark skinned father, never made me feel as if I were "other." However, I still saw the pain that these stereotypes based on colorism had on my peers and I still felt a sting as if were me. The video highlights black women, as they are often the face subject of colorism in the black community, but black men feel the pain too. In my observations, it is often masked by jokes when it comes to black men and colorism, but no one is immune. While I am fully aware the "black" is not homogenous, and we present in an array of shades that are all beautiful, I try not to get married to that way of thinking. We have so many food-related adjectives to describe us such as pecan, caramel, mocha and chocolate that some have planted their feet do deeply into these manufactured labels, that they don't want to be described as anything but. They don't want to slide down the color scale because it only gets darker. If only they could see that there is beauty in uniqueness. We all have a beauty that is unique to every one of us.
Video Credit: Iyanla Fix My Life