Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Diva's Life: The Most Important Things I Learned in My 20's.....So Far

I am in my last year of this beautiful decade that is my 20's. I hear people all the tine comment on how their twenties seem to last forever, probably because we changed so much during this time period.  I'm not the same as I was at 25, and at 25 I wasn't the same as I was at 21. In my 29 and Fine year, I'm initially wanted to share 29 things I learned because it sounded catchy. I'd be lying if I say I wasn't still learning. So here are the most important things I learned in my 20' far.

1. Your Peace and Happiness Must Come From You

No one person or thing can make you happy or bring you peace. That must come from you. People can only enhance or chip away at those things.  You have full ownership. To rest your happiness and peace in someone's else's possession is to say that you are an empty vessell.

2. You Won't Always Be Rewarded for Doing What's Right

We're taught from our youth that we must do the right thing. However, if doing the right thing is against the status quo, it could get you blackballed, fired (Yes, that happened to me.), or create some enemies. Sometimes it's easy to go with the flow. Doing what's right and doing what is easy are often not the same things. Listen to your intuition, then do what it tells you to do, just be prepared.

3. Be Fully You and Live In It!

I love color and patterns, and many times wear them together. I have electic tastes in music, television shows, food, and books. Some don't understand.  Others diss it. Few side eye it. I will not suppress who I am to appease anyone. Pretending is exhausting.

4. Enjoy Your Own Company

Don't get so used to doing things in groups and pairs. Take a moment to shop alone, go out to eat alone, go see a movie solo. I've learned if you can't enjoy your own company, how can you expect others to?

5. Create Your Own Definition of Luxury

I don't strive to own the hottest foreign sportscar or the 20 bedroom mansion. If you do, work towards it. Never feel less than because you can't afford shiny things.  I'd rather travel the world solo or with friends and family while trying different cullinary fare, or to work poolside on a random Tuesday. Think of your dream lifestyle and work towards that, not for what others have.

6. Don't Force Yourself Into a Societal Norm

Don't let others do it  either. I'm unmarried without kids. That.Is.Okay.  If that's not the life you want, that is also okay. Want to focus on school and career first? Cool!

7. Don't Let Men Disrepect You

Check the hypersexualized pick up lines,  sexist, and misogynistic comments and behaviors at the door. Don't let them blame you for them being disrespectful to you!

8. Family Can Extend Beyond Blood Relatives

I have such close bonds with people who aren't blood related to me that the line between friend and family is blurred. Cherish these people.

9. Never Settle

In life, love, career, etc. We all deserve the best.  Be stubborn about your goals and flexible about your methods. This mindset can be a lonely one as it weeds out a lot of people and opportunities in your life, but don't just go through the motions and set out to LIVE your best life as Auntie Oprah famously says.

10.  Prayer Changes Things

Pray things into existence, no matter how small. Say prayers of thanks for blessings big and small.

11. Cherish Your Elders

Soak up all of their wisdom while they're still here with you.

12. Eat Healthy

That fast metabolism in your early 20's will take a nose dive around 25 if you're not careful. Get in the habit of eating healthy and exercising regularly. Trust me. I've had my own weight issues and we only have one vessel, take care of it.

13. Read More and Across Genres

Most of us love a juicy drama or romantic novel. However, reading about finance, the housing market or about the latest in other countries helps you become more well rounded and informed.

14.  Each One Teach One

When you get to a certain level of knowledge and success, even if it is not your end goal, help a hard working young person get to where you are by showing them the ropes. 

15. Try

I found that trying is one of the hardest things to do. Putting one foot in front of the other is so scary, but I don't want to be on the other side of "What if?"

16. There is No Neutrality When It Comes to Injustices

Okay, touchy subject but it needs to be addressed. For example,  I noticed when a story hits the news that was provoked by race, gender, or religion, many of my fellow bloggers suddenly fade into the back ground. They are quiet for the time period said stories are hot topics. When they get overshadowed by the next big story, it's back to makeup, fashion, and whatever else. The common claim is that isn't their brand. These are human issues, not brand issues.

Tuesday, April 25, 2017

What I Wore: Birthday Brunching in Colorful Statement Lace Up Sandals and Coral Peplum Top

By nature, I love color.  I'm drawn to it over neutrals  I make certain colors my neutrals, such as coral, raspberry, and cobalt blue. They go with everything. So when the time came to choose an ensemble for my birthday, I chose these fab and affordable shoes first, then worked my way up. I kept my entire outfit affordable as my brunch's dress code  was "Casual Fly."

Shoes: It's Fashion Metro
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Top and Shorts: Cato Fashions

Monday, April 24, 2017

Diva FOTD: Pinks & Corals

Okay, my birthday celebrations are over, now it's time to dish on my makeup look for my brunch. I used a mixture of high and low end products. Get full details and check out the pictures below.

Prep & Prime:

DG Store Brand Dry Skin Cream 
Black Radiance Shine Control Primer (face)
Black Radiance Perfecting  Eyeshadow Primer

Covergirl Brown Smolder Eyeshadow 

Morphe Palette (lid)
Covergirl Brown Smolder (crease)
Maybelline Eye Studio Marker Eyeliner
Black Radiance Body Building Mascara

BECCA Radiant Skin Foundation in Mahogany 
Air Spun Finishing Powder ("Pre-powder")
Black Radiance Soft Focus Powder in Milk Chocolate Finish
Ben Nye Mojave Luxury Powder in Dark Cocoa (Contour)
Black Radiance Contour Kit in Medium/Deep (Highlight)

Black Radiance Raspberry Blush

Maybelline Lip Elixir in Captivating Carnation

Friday, April 14, 2017

Diva's Life: My Strange Addiction, Well Kinda...

They say when you're craving something, it's your body telling you you're deficient in key vitamins and minerals. Always wanting a steak, how's your iron? Want shaved ice? What are your hemoglobin levels?  Well I've been craving......fried okra and chicken livers. That's it. Y'all, several times a week, sometimes days in a row. My local soul food spot has been getting all my coins. Even today, as I slid through to get my okra to snack on (I was really hungry this time, no cravings, but why change the routine?) And they gave me my drink on the house. I'm officially a regular! LOL.

The nerd in me looked up what is in this okra and chicken livers I so crave and the results made me feel like I wasn't living my life right. Check it out below.


Chicken Livers

Now I know eating this much fried food is not good. I'm calling thisa phase. I probably won't touch neither of the two food for years after this. But right now, I'm going IN!

I know this post is random, but life is random sometimes.  Just wanted to give you all a light read for your Friday evenings.
P.S. My weight has not been affected by my new diet changed. I checked. 

P.P.S. Don't leave me hanging. What are some foods that you are/were hooked on?

Tuesday, April 11, 2017

The Latest in Beauty News: Beauty Hack by Shea Moisture

Shea Mositure is actually giving you ingredients to make your own need based products! From bases, body oil, fragrance oils, and recipes, they have thought of it all. How many times have you whipped up your own concoctions  because the original was good but just wasn't thick enough, thin enough, or moisturizing enough? Shea Moisture has created Beauty Hack to help do that with ease.

There are several bases, oils, and aromas to choose from.

You can find the ingredients to your perfect product at or Ulta Beauty.

Saturday, April 8, 2017

Small Business Spotlight: Follow Diva's Marketplace!

Happy Saturday DC Fam!

I hope you all are enjoying your lazy mornings with a hot cup of coffee. I just wanted to pop by and ask you all to follow Diva's Marketplace!

 This is my latest business venture. I'll be making handmade beauty, body, and bath products and have been prepping for the the launch, which is going down real SOON. I suffer from allergies, sensitive skin, and eczema, so know all of my products will be gentle to your skin. I am my first customer, so if I can't use it, then I'm not making it. Simple. 

Keep up with Diva's Marketplace on social for updates:

Instagram: @divasmarketplace 
Twitter: @divasmarketplc 
Facebook: @divasmarketplace 
Pinterest: @divasmarketplace 

The site, will be up soon for your shipping pleasure!

Have great weekends and be safe!

Peace & Love,


Thursday, April 6, 2017


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