Diva Talks Culture: The Do's and Don't of Discussing Cultural Differences Amongst Friends

As someone who has a vast appreciation for cultures other than my own and an advocate for travel and exploration, I thought an article on Marjorie Harvey's site spoke of just what is needed in our current racial climate. Racial tensions are high, so being mindful of what to say and not say to our friends from different ethnicities is especially important. Here's an excerpt:

Do Say It Like It Is
If you can’t discuss the truth about stereotypes amongst your bestie, there’s little hope for the world at large. Especially amongst the closest to you, have the courage to have those uncomfortable talks, and breakdown the stereotypes and prejudices one courageous conversation at a time.

Don’t Use The Lingo
We understand you want to get on the same level as your girlfriend, but do not start adapting her accent or her lingo. Colloquialisms belong to a specific group of people–let it belong to them! It’s the language of their culture, and their way of expressing themselves in the world. So, if you didn’t grow up with those words, don’t go “dropping-it-like-it’s-hot,” cause it’s not. Word?

Do Be Your Authentic Self
True in every facet of life, but perhaps the most true in a mixed group, represent yourself the way you are. Don’t adjust for the sake of the group, or we’ll never learn how to authentically coexist. Speak your truth ladies.
Don’t Pretend We’re All The Same
Yes, we’re all human. And yes, we have our humanity in common. As hard as we try to relate to people different from ourselves, the truth is we’ve all been raised in a radically different experience, and that experience deserves consideration and respect. Trying to relate to your friends’ particular struggle, when you’ve had the privilege of living outside of it, may come off as a slap in the face. So just be present, ask questions, and look for common ground. But always, always, respect the difference.

Read the rest of the article here.

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